Will and I are finally living in the same city! While I began the moving process a few weeks ago, I officially said my farewells and see you laters in Boston today, and hopped on a train to start our next adventure TOGETHER! After two and a half years of planes, trains, Mega Buses, and lots of phone calls and letters, we did it! I’ve been waiting for this day for two and a half years, when we first found out we would be apart. I’ve learned that's a long time to wait for a day to arrive, when you never actually knew when it will come, and there's a lot emotion that comes with it when it does!
While I know that there are many different reasons that can keep people in separate places and many people might have different stories with it, when I reflect back at these past few years in my experience, I can tell you that long distance is a crazy thing. It makes you sad to the point that your heart hurts when you just really need a hug after a long day. Sometimes you feel like half of you is missing. When you are in a bit of a tif, you can’t look that person in the eye, hold their hand, and tell them you love them. When you’re feeling festive and want to go out, your date sometimes isn’t there to go with you. And sometimes you just feel mad at whatever it is that’s keeping you apart.
With all of those hard things, I’ve had a lot of people say recently they think it’s pretty incredible we made it work. And I have to say I’m really proud of us too. We didn’t give up. And I think that’s the really cool thing about long distance…through all of those really gunky moments that come with it, there’s so many ways you grow together too. We both were strong for each other, and we figured out how to build each other up, even when we couldn’t do it in person. You make sacrifices for each other, and your trust only continues to grow along the way. And wow do you learn to communicate! When you’re apart, you really earn how to talk about everything, from expressing how much you care about someone when you can’t show them in person, to even when you’re feeling a little down, scared, or any of those other feelings we tend to keep quiet. You learn the importance of not going to bed upset, and sometimes instead of an alarm in the morning, a phone call to say good morning and have a good day does the trick too. And for all of you people who think grocery shopping is a pain, I can tell you that I don’t think I’ve ever seen two people so excited to buy their Keto foods as Will and I last week. Sometimes those little things like watching terrible Lifetime movies or cooking dinner all of a sudden mean a whole lot more.
We also realized sometimes what is keeping you in separate cities, can sometimes be a chance for each of you to grow yourselves. Often, that growth means you are even better together too. Today, I shut my laptop, and walked away from a job that I loved with my whole heart, where I got to do work that I was proud of and used my skills, all while working with people and at a company that I felt honored to be with. While there’s still a winding career road ahead of me, I think navigating a city all on my own, and finding a career that fit just what I had been searching for, had something to do with having to do things a bit on my own, and I feel a little more “me”. In the meantime just a few hours away, Will has had an incredible career opportunity so far, and I am enormously proud of how much he has grown along the way. If you want to know what hard work looks like, he is your guy.
So today, as someone recently put it, we have been trying to line up two people’s lives from separate cities, and we finally did it. While for me, that means closing my Boston chapter, I feel very lucky to have been in a spot that made saying see you later feel so sad for now. And if there’s anything we’ve learned so far, we love a good adventure, and it’s about time for the next one! So with that, we’re trading snow for sunshine, and heading to the South. For any of you who are also doing long distance, I’m sending you a hug tonight, and I know you can do it. Don’t be afraid to lean into each other. And for those of you who are lucky enough to be together, take a minute to put your phone down, and go chat with the person sitting on the other side of the couch, give em a hug and tell them you love em. And enjoy that next trip to the grocery store or gym too ;).
Thanks for all of the love and support over these past few years, we are pretty stinking excited :).