"Because when we work from a place, I believe, that says, "I'm enough," then we stop screaming and start listening, we're kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we're kinder and gentler to ourselves.” Brene Brown quotes those words at the end of her famous Ted Talk, The Power of Vulnerability, and they stick with you. (If you are needing a great way to start off your week, watch that talk, I can't tell you how much it impacts my life years later!) Whether it's deciding what I can do with my weekend, how I speak, or how I listen, I've been trying to keep those words, kinder and gentler to the people around us and ourselves, as a bit of inspiration.
This weekend, I woke up on Saturday with not a clue what to do with my day, and noticed I was becoming a bit of a grump because of it. I decided that meant one thing...I was in need of a "take care of you" sort of day. As soon as I decided that's what I would do, my mood turned around, and I was in fact, a little kinder and gentler with myself. I think sometimes we don't realize that when we don't stop for a minute to recoop, we aren't only wearing ourselves down, but it keeps us from being better connected with others too.
For me, it was a combination of doing things that I love, and getting some things checked off the to do list. I dropped my car off to get its state inspection, which relieved anxiety of needing to get that done. In the meantime, I wandered to the newly opened Union Square Donut shop, found my favorite spot, a window seat, and ate one of the best Boston cream donuts I've ever had, sipped on coffee, and read none other than one of Brene Brown's books. A little sweet treat is a fun and easy way to do something for yourself, and how can you not smile when you see a well made donut and a good cup of coffee?
I did some other vintage shopping this weekend, had a Chick Fil A FaceTime date, sorted papers and cleaned my room, and ended with a little restorative yoga with candles in my room and blogging. Taking time to relieve stress and taking care of/treating yourself pays off. I think when we take time invest in ourselves and take care of ourselves, we have a greater capacity to love and invest in others. So with that, I've planned out a combination of things this week that keep my life organized and free of stress, and a little time to treat myself during the week too. Maybe it's grabbing a donut and coffee on a Wednesday morning, keeping an evening free for folding some laundry, getting your nails painted before traveling, writing a letter...whatever it is for you that keeps you at peace and puts a smile on your face...make time for it this week. Sometimes it's getting up a few minutes earlier, using your lunch break to be productive, or avoiding heading straight to Netflix in the evening. If we consciously plot a little bit of time for ourselves, I think it will make the week that much better. With that, I wish you the best of weeks, and hope that while I am over here trying to being a little kinder and gentler with myself and others, you get the chance to do the same.